Writer: Why, thank you. (looks at the sheets of paper more closely) But… I didn’t write that.
Editor: I know you didn’t. I wrote it. I said this is how you should write.
This was from many years ago, from the comic strip Shoe. The two characters were journalists, not fiction writers (and they were birds), but this has always stuck in my mind when giving (and getting) feedback.
It’s all to easy, when giving feedback, to fall into this approach: “You should have written this more the way I would have written it.”
I lived, very briefly, with someone else who wrote, and we had this comic strip up on our refrigerator. We referred to it quite often.