love, hate, indifference

A couple of thoughts, and some links.

Sonje made a comment about a recent post, and it's stuck with me. Her comment was "It is interesting how both really good and really bad live on in one’s mind. It reminds me when someone told me that love and hate are not opposites but actually the two closest emotions. The true opposite of both love and hate is indifference."

We were talking about movies, but I've thought about it more and I realized it applies more generally. This is a big factor in Ron's life, for example. Feeling unloved, she ran away from home, expecting that her parents would come after her and bring her back (and probably beat her, as they had before). Instead they didn't follow her at all.

She wouldn't say it (or talk about it at all), but I think she would have preferred the beating. What could be worse than finding out that your parents don't care enough to get you and bring you back?


You know one way movies differ from real life? In real life, if a woman tells you that she is medically unable to get pregnant, mostly she doesn't get pregnant. In movies, any woman who says that will always get pregnant. I thought of this when watching Premetheus (not a spoiler – every reviewer mentions the pregnancy and the resolution), which reminded me of Dogma, and The Opposite of Sex, and that movie from the 1980s where Diane Keaton kept complaining about her womb (Crimes of the Heart, I think).

Someday I'm going to have a character say that she can't get pregnant, and when she won't get pregnant. Wild, huh?

(I make a bit of an exception for Dogma, since it's supposed to be a religious miracle – that's the point. In Prometheus it was particularly annoying, since the "who can create life?" thing was a false analogy, and one more attempt to have the movie be everything to everybody.)

I did know a woman once who became pregnant after being told that she couldn't, but it only happened after a lot of medical intervention.


Here are some links:

Tiyana had an excellent post called "Portraying Cultures & Peoples In Speculative Fiction. There are some very interesting perspectives in the comments, too.

Maggie had two really good posts:

Oh, and if you want to know more about the "God Partlcle" (the Higgs Boson), I think all the answers are here.

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4 Responses to love, hate, indifference

  1. Jo Eberhardt says:

    There is no-one more fertile in fiction than an infertile woman. πŸ™‚

    In saying that, though, my sister-in-law was told when she was 20 that she wasn’t able to have children. She was devastated.

    And so it was that 11 months later she was in hospital giving birth to a child conceived to a guy who was barely more than a one night stand. Because when you’re infertile, why use any kind of protection.

  2. sonje says:

    One of the things I always respected about the TV show Friends was that Monica and Chandler find out that they both have fertility issues and therefore Monica can’t get pregnant — and then she never does. You’re right. That is very rare.

    Also, glad I could inspire a post! πŸ™‚

  3. (Weirdly, I thought I had responded to this already… well, I think I did, and this is what I said.)

    All the more admirable on a long-running television show, since there is always the pressure to figure out what to do next that hasn’t been done on the show already. Babies (and weddings) are a common solution to this dilemma.

    Friends was about the time I stopped watching television, so I have never seen a single episode. I guess that’s unusual. I have seen a few episodes of Seinfeld, but that started a little earlier.

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